FOREPLAY THAT WILL DRIVE HER WILD

It's not as hard as you might imagine. Here are a few foolproof basics to entice your lady

Every man has, at some point or another, been given the spiel about the importance of foreplay. Over the years some learn to ace the art, while others still struggle with the basics. How little is too little? How does one know when it's safe enough to move on to the bigger game? Is it really so essential to start with, every single time?

To make things easier, here are a few basic guidelines that will help you cover your bases and make sure you aren't short-staffing your lady love.

Getting there
The thing is, unlike men, women and their emotional beings require a lot more 'play time' to get their engines roaring. It's not just about starting slow or taking things easy, in order to produce enough lubrication required for intercourse, women's bodies need help conjuring up the lust quotient. Emotional intimacy and closeness with their partner, which is cemented during foreplay, is the best way to set the mood for a long and fruitful session. While each woman is different, there are a few basics that work for most in general. Avoid rushing things and you should do just fine.

Talk and tease
You might be a hands-on kind of guy, but talking dirty is a great way to get your lady listening. Women respond differently to written and spoken words than men, which is why women's erotica has the sort of readership it does. If you describe how you would like to touch her, with what intensity and in which direction, you'll engage her mind before her body, which is exactly what you aim to do. She'll be visualizing it eagerly and be ready before you know it. The beauty is in the details. As for touching her, avoid the obvious privates. Instead, try her erogenous zones — mouth, neck, wrists, inner thighs and back.

Build anticipation
You don't always have to get into the driver's seat only when you reach the bedroom. The thing about public display of affection is that it could be respectful, playful and deeply intimate without being overtly offensive. A playful tap on her bottom or a passionate kiss at the bar sets up the mood for what is to come, and gets her wildly interested much before you make it to the confines of your room.

Clothes aren't essential
If you think only women can strip and put on a sexy show, you're in for a surprise. Try your hand at seductively undressing yourself, unbuttoning one at a time. The idea is to tease and interest without being very aggressive or impatient. Music is usually a good aid if you feel too awkward and you can make things interesting by asking her to join you.

Slowly undress her as you both groove to the music. Steer clear of gangsta rap or Celine Diontracks and stick to soulful serenades by Norah Jones or a breezy Jack Johnson for a spring in your step.

It's all in the hands 
While each woman may have her own special responses and preferences there are some moves that work on everyone. Once you've set the mood and you're both in a comfortable state of undress, use your fingers to pleasure her privates in gentle, smooth moves. Nothing too brash or aggressive. Kissing, suckling, pecking and gently nibbling are all acceptable. Try and keep a tab on her responses and make your moves accordingly. Softly touching and caressing her clitoris should get the lubrication process started. Feel free to give her oral pleasure as well.

Take it easy
Soon enough her body language will tell you she's ready. Parted legs, arching back, deep kisses are usually dead giveaways. This should be your cue. But do remember, like each woman is different her responses to your moves will vary, some might work with greater success than others. The idea is to seduce her into the game instead of pouncing on with action. You needn't try all these together. In isolation or in combination of twos or threes will work wonders too. All it takes is a little dedicated attention.

5 TYPES OF CONDOM FOR GREAT SEX

It's a lot of fun to choose the right condom before a steamy love making session. Today there are many varieties of condomsavailable in the market, from flavoured condoms to dotted condoms. It's always safe and feels good to wear condom while having sex.

If you are not on a baby-making mission and want to arouse and stimulate your partner like never before, we list down 5 varieties of condoms for great sex.

1. Flavoured condoms
Such condoms are best for oral sex. They are available in a wide range of flavours such as chocolate, coffee, strawberry, mint, vanilla and many more. If you are using it for vaginal or anal sex, always make sure they are sugar-free in order to avoid yeast infection.

2. Dotted condoms
If you want that extra pleasure this is the right condom for you. Textured or studded condoms are meant for increasing pleasure for both the partners. These condoms have slight bumps that run through the length of the condom on both the sides.

3. Super thin condoms 
If you want to use a condom and still get the same kick as condom-free sex, this one will suit you fine. This type of condom is transparent with a thin layer made of sheerlon material that acts like a second skin. It is highly effective against pregnancy and STDs.

4. Pleasure-shaped condoms
This type of condom heightens sensitivity for both the partners. It has loose and enlarged tip.

5. Glow in the dark condoms 
If you want to experience kinky sex, this is the right choice. When exposed to light for 30 seconds, it glows in the dark. It is non-toxic and has three layers. The inner and the outermost layers are made up of latex and the middle one contains a safe pigment that makes it glow.

Even with condoms one needs to take precautions. So, next time you are buying one don't forget to check the label if it is FDA approved for use against unplanned pregnancy and STDs.

EROTIC & SENSUAL MASSAGES by SAM

Ever tried erotic massage? It's relaxing, enjoyable and a fab boost for your sex drive, so revive the erotic potential of every part of your bod!

Try out our massage ideas and techniques. Don't forget that they can be performed on both men and women...so drop him some hints!

How do I go about it? Get your partner to lie down comfortably on his back with his head positioned on a cushion. Kneeling down behind him, place your hands on his forehead and start to stroke him lightly from his nose up to his hairline, alternating hands. Repeat this around ten times, varying the intensity of the pressure according to how you think he's feeling. To finish, place your palms on his temples and keep them there for two minutes.

Why is it so good? Because it stimulates the energy centre behind the forehead, also known as the third eye. This relieves tension, eases stress and brings a feeling of wellbeing. 

A good time to try it: This is a gentle massage, so it's ideal to start with before you move onto raunchier massage. Give him a head massage first to get him relaxed and in the mood. Head massage is perfect for beginners: it's quick and easy and gets you used to physical contact.

Tip: To make the massage more erotic, make small circular movements on his scalp, which contains lots of sexual stimulation spots.

Note: The ear is a very sensitive and highly erogenous area that can send shivers of pleasure through the body when stimulated. Explore with your tongue or just hot breath, but beware: some people can't bear being touched too close to their ear. Stop at the first sign that he's not enjoying it!

BACK MASSAGE

How do I go about it? To give him a Californian massage, make him lie down on his stomach and position yourself towards his head with your hands flat at the top of his back. Slide your palms gently down to his bum, as if you're stretching his skin towards his feet. Squeeze his bum, slide your hands along his flanks then go back up to his armpits before lightly tugging his shoulders upwards to return to your starting position. Repeat this movement, increasing the pressure as you go along. Don't forget to synchronise your actions with your partner's breathing: go down when he exhales and up when he inhales.

Why is it so good? Because it's relaxing and releases muscular tension. It also revives the skin's sensitivity, making him even more receptive to your caresses!

A good time to try it: After a long, hard day at work, when he's too stressed or tired for acrobatic sex. It's guaranteed to relax him and turn him on!

An extra idea: For a bit of a change, you can also give him a Californian massage on the chest (using the same movements) and stomach: position yourself to the right of your partner, place your hands on his abdomen then massage in clockwise circular movements.

Did you know? This massage is actually called Sensitive Gestalt Massage, but it's known as Californian massage because it was invented there in 1960s (and it sounds a lot sexier as well, we reckon).

CHEST MASSAGE

How do I go about it? Position yourself on the right of your partner, in line with his hips. Place your hands on his pecs then make 3 circular movements: clockwise for the rightbreast and anti-clockwise for the left. Still making circular omvements, bring the breasts in towards each other, then separate them. Next, slide your fingers from the nipple towards the outside of the breast, then make a gentle kneading movement wth the skin, varying the pressure. To finish on a more sensual note, delicately kiss his chest.

Why is it so good? The chest and stomach are among the most sensitive parts of the body: the skin around the collar bone is very thin so very receptive to touch. And in both men and women, the chest is a secondary erogenous zone that, when touched, leads to arousal of the primary zones (genitals).

A good time to try it: When your libido is sluggish. 30 minutes of sensual chest massage should be enough to relight the fire.

An extra idea: Why not use a feather or brush to caress his chest? You'll have him shivering with pleasure.

Note: Nipple stimulation alone can lead to orgasm in 24% of women, according to a survey.

ARM MASSAGE

How do I go about it? Sitting next to your partner, take his right hand in your left hand, and position your right hand on his wrist, with your fingers pointing towards his shoulder. Gently go from the wrist to the elbow, then continue up to the shoulder, before going back down the length of the arm. Do this twice.
Next, place your two hands parallel on his forearm and go up to his shoulder, applying even pressure. Go back down, releasing the pressure. Repeat this several times. Finally, hold his right hand between your hands and use your thumbs to make kneading movements on his palm, then slide your index finger between his fingers. Repeat with his left arm.

Why is it so good? We often ignore them, but the arms contain manyerogenous zones, notably the elbows (at the crook), the wrists and the hands. Very rarely caressed on a daily basis (especially the hands!), the hands are particularly sensitive to massage, which provides intense sensations.

A good time to try it: When you feel like you're in a routine between the sheets and daily physical contact is rare. Massaging the arms lets you rediscover and focus on your partner's hands and shoulders, parts of the body which we all to often neglect.

An extra idea: To spice up the massage a bit, slip your tongue between your partner's fingers and gently kiss his fingertips.

Note: Because of their symbolic meaning (they protect and coax), erotic massage of the hands and arms reinforces your feelings for each other and forges stronger links between you.

BUM MASSAGE

How do I go about it? He lies down on his stomach and you straddle his bum. Place your palms flat on his bum and massage in circular movements, getting bigger as you go along. Increase the pressure gradually. Next, place your hands on his right buttock, and using your thumbs, create a roll of skin that you push up to the coccyx (tailbone). Alternate between the left and right buttocks.

Why is it so good?Because his derrière is a highly erotic area, just like ours! Also, the stimulation spots that control the prostate and testosterone production in men are located around the coccyx, near to the gluteal cleft (i.e. the crack).

A good time to try it: When you have enough confidence in your partner to allow him to get to grips with your bum in the light. One to avoid the first time if you're a bit insecure about your bum!

An extra idea: Vary the tools you use! Rather than your hands, place your forearms on his bum and make circular movements from the outside inwards. Larger movements give more intense pressure.

Note: While light caresses using your fingertips are enough to stimulate the thighs, kneading movements and vigorous massage are more suitable for the bum, which is more muscular.

FEET MASSAGING TECHNIQUE

How do I go about it? Your partner lies down on his back, with a little cushion placed under his knees. Sitting at his feet, pour some oil into your palms and warm it up. Take his left foot in both your hands and make gentle clockwise movements around each of his malleoluses (the prominent bones on each side of the ankle) with your thumbs. Do the same with his right foot, then place the first three fingers of each of your hands on the outer malleolus of his ankles. Draw five slow circles in one direction then in the other before making figure of 8 movements. Continue, varying the pressure and width of the movements.

Why is it so good? Because the feet are potential erogenous zones and consist of 4 sexual stimulation spots that are linked to the genitals. Massaging the feet is both relaxing and arousing: double the benefits!

A good time to try it: After foreplay, just before you get down to business.

An extra idea: Make your own sexy, woody foot massage oil by mixing 50ml sweet almond oil with 6 drops of sandalwood oil.

Tip: Are you familiar with plantar reflexology? This calming therapy treats the body's organs at a distance by applying pressure to the feet with the thumbs. In addition to the erotic aspect, foot massage is also great if you're stressed, anxious, bloated or have headaches.

10 GOLDEN RULES FOR EROTIC MASSAGE

1) Dine lightly beforehand: a lightaphrodisiac meal is perfect (oysters, strawberries, champagne...).

2) Heat the room up: 25° is ideal. You're both going to be naked, so you don't want to freeze! If the temperature isn't high enough, your partner's muscles won't relax, his body will tense and he won't get any pleasure out of it.

3) Create a relaxed atmosphere: dim the lights and disconnect the phone so you don't get disturbed. Put on some soft, relaxing background music and burn some essential oils (3 drops of orange blossom to relieve tension, for example).

4) Make yourselves comfy: arrange cushions, warm blankets and soft thick towels on the bed, sofa or floor.

5) Invest in some massage oils: choose relatively fluid, oily ones that slide and don't stick! Avoid chemical paraffin oils: opt for organic plant oils. There's a huge choice of oils out there, from almond and macadamia to apricot kernel and sesame.

6) Remove your jewellery and cut your nails so you don't hurt him! And avoid any scars and varicose veins.

7) Pay attention to his reactions: vary the pressure you apply depending on how much he's enjoying it, and move to the rhythm of his breathing.

8) Vary the techniques you use: light, feather-like movements, rolling and kneading.

9) Share: Take it in turns to massage each other. Erotic massage has to be reciprocal!

10) Use your imagination: You don't have to follow the techniques word for word. Intersperse massage with kisses and gestures of affection.

5 Sex secrets every woman must know

Here are five sex secrets that may help you understand and get even closer to your guy... 

Men are full of surprises and bedroombehaviour is no exception. While it's impossible to explain all male behaviours, here are five sex secrets that may help you understand and get even closer to your guy.

He's nurses the fear that he'll let you down 
Men feel tremendous pressure to perform sexually. While women aren't waiting formarriage to have sex, and that means they are far more relaxed in the bedroom. Sexually satisfied role models, like Madonna and the 'Sex and the City' sirens, encourage urban women to be open about their sexual desires and complaints. These liberated women to cause some trouble for their male partners. Suddenly, the pressure to perform is on, and he can't help but feel like he has to please you. Even though you may not be so bothered about his performance and you might forgive him for a few poor performances, he has a hard time forgiving himself. It's really tough on him.

Warning: 
If your man has a recurring problem of performance, he may start to blame you to protect his ego. Be prepared to handle this situation.

What you can do: 
Don't take it personally or, worse, insult him. And never laugh! Just pretend that it is no great deal for you.

Men need validation to get their groove on 
Sex is a source of power from ages, and it gives proof that one is masculine. To a man, having sex means that he can move a woman, that he's energetic, a provider and a lover. Basically, your guy wants to be a superhero, and he certainly wants you to see him in that light. When he satisfies you sexually, he feels like superman. If you're enjoying yourself, let him know that. He'll love you for your compliments.

Warning 
No encouragement means no fun. Whether you are enjoying yourself or not, just be encouraging.

What you can do 
A good rule of thumb: Don't fake it but don't fight it. Just look happy and satisfied and that would make your man feel super.

Men don't like waiting too long 
Women should never hold out to have sex simply because of the so called rules of dating. He is more likely to commit if there is a sexual component to the relationship, and it is important for him to know that you find him sexually desirable.

Warning 
If your guy is offended when you initiate sex, get rid of him.

What you can do 
We're all sensual beings; we might as well be who we are. So don't be afraid to make a move.

Men too are conscious about their bodies 
Let's face it: Men may not worry about weight nearly as much as women do, but they do have their own image issues.

Warning 
Most men are quite concerned about their general physical condition, height and baldness. In other words, they are hoping for mood lighting in the bedroom just as much as women are.

What you can do 
Help your man by telling him that you find him attractive and showing him affection.

Most men will not forgive a cheating girlfriend 
Men who have been betrayed, especially in the bedroom, are far less likely to forgive their partners than women in the same situation.

Warning 
Men want loyalty at all cost.

What you can do 
Show your loyalty not only by remaining faithful when in a committed relationship, but also by supporting your man in front of colleagues and friends and defending him when necessary. This allegiance will make your man more secure and will give him the motivation to let loose in the bedroom with you. Men want commitment just as much as women do; they just want it packaged differently.

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hii i am sam from delhi. 
i am 26 years of age, wheatish colour, athletic body, 5,7 height.


a proffesional male escort as well as proffesional massage therapist too. i am available for delhi,gurgaon & ncr area as well do outbound but with certain rules.

privacy & satisfaction assured and that is my main motto. prices we can discuss and will have discounts. 

you can mail me or you can visitwww.meetsamdelhi.blogspot.com